Uncovering a Prospect’s Purpose

by | Jan 15, 2025

Author Po Bronson reminds us of an old parable you’ve probably heard a few times.

There are three bricklayers who are all working on the same job.

When they get a break, one guy asks the other two, ‘Why are you doing this job?’

The first guy says, ‘I’m doing it for the wages.’

The second guy says, ‘I’m doing it for my wife and kids.’

The third guy looks up at what they’ve been building–a church–a place to get in touch with God. He says, ‘I’m helping to build a cathedral.’

Most people hear this parable, and they think the third guy has the right answer.

But that’s not the lesson being taught.

All three men have a sense of purpose—the cathedral is just a conduit for their purpose to be realized (self-sufficiency, family, or spirituality).

They’re all good. They’re all right answers.

The real lesson of the parable is this: Notice that no one answered, I just love laying bricks.

Agents usually have a larger purpose that inspires the work they do.

Your job as a recruiter is to uncover your prospect’s true purpose and then help them see how working with you will enable them to flourish more in that purpose.

 

The Simple Psychology of Real Estate Recruiting [2nd Edition]

Unlock the secrets of effective real estate recruiting. Revised to include actionable frameworks for sharper execution and to help you turn psychological theory into a repeatable recruiting system.

Creating Pacts to Avoid Distraction

Creating Pacts to Avoid Distraction

Notice the two parts to Nir’s formula: a pre-commitment and an external force to keep you accountable to that commitment. For recruiting setting goals and time-blocks in your schedule is not enough. Most people need some kind of external accountability, as well.

Look for Individuals Who Want to be Measured

Look for Individuals Who Want to be Measured

It’s not that people with a growth mindset don’t experience failure—they just see failure as an opportunity to learn new things, to be challenged, and to experience curiosity. This is an important topic to cover during interviews and follow-up conversations with your prospects. If you find someone who likes being measured, you’ve likely found someone who will push through the inherent failures of growing a real estate business and experience long-term success.