How Great Recruiters Become Great

by | Jun 10, 2025

In his bestselling book, Decoding Greatness, Ron Friedman challenges the notion that greatness only comes through inner talent and practice.

There is a third story about greatness–one that is not often shared.

Yet, it’s a path to skill acquisition and mastery that’s stunningly common among icons everywhere from artists and writers to chefs and athletes to inventors and entrepreneurs.

It’s called reverse engineering.

Reverse engineering means studying what others are doing with a high level of scrutiny and attention to detail. And then applying what you learned to a related endeavor.

Dr. Friedman demonstrates how the great innovations in technology, business, education, culture, politics, relationships, and most other fields were created through some sort of reverse engineering.

It only makes sense that something this powerful should be applied to recruiting, as well.

We’ll touch back on this topic in some future Insights, but let’s start the process of reverse engineering recruiting by asking a few simple questions:

  1. Who are the companies, offices, and teams who are recruiting most successfully in your marketplace?
  2. What are some of the techniques these other entities are using to recruit so successfully?
  3. Can any of their techniques or methodologies be quickly copied and reused?
  4. What are other industries doing (outside of real estate) to recruit successfully?

It’s arrogant and misguided to think all the good ideas will be spontaneously generated inside your brain.

The smartest and most successful recruiters look for ideas they can reuse.

 

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Creating Pacts to Avoid Distraction

Creating Pacts to Avoid Distraction

Notice the two parts to Nir’s formula: a pre-commitment and an external force to keep you accountable to that commitment. For recruiting setting goals and time-blocks in your schedule is not enough. Most people need some kind of external accountability, as well.

Look for Individuals Who Want to be Measured

Look for Individuals Who Want to be Measured

It’s not that people with a growth mindset don’t experience failure—they just see failure as an opportunity to learn new things, to be challenged, and to experience curiosity. This is an important topic to cover during interviews and follow-up conversations with your prospects. If you find someone who likes being measured, you’ve likely found someone who will push through the inherent failures of growing a real estate business and experience long-term success.