How to Create More Influence During Interviews

by | Nov 7, 2024

The most common mistake hiring managers make during the interview is talking too much.

It seems counterintuitive, but those who speak the least have the greatest influence during interviews.

How do you create more influence during your interviews?  

By being a better listener.

Researchers who discovered this connection suggest the following techniques to better engage your listeners:

Be mentally present.

Since workplace conversations often have two modes (talking and waiting to talk), it’s impossible to absorb the full meaning behind a speaker’s words when you’re mentally composing your next lines.

Resist the temptation to speak.

Maintaining this type of focus is surprisingly difficult.

There is always a temptation to finish the other person’s sentences, make a quick joke, interrupt to correct a misstatement, etc.  You’ll know you’re making progress if you feel like you want to say something, but you don’t give into that urge.

Pay attention to your listening posture.

People relay they care about what’s being said through their body language.

When people are eager to hear more, they lean forward. A tilt of the head is associated with interest and curiosity. Head nodding can be a powerful sign of encouragement, especially when the speaker is expressing a difficult emotional point.

When a recruiting prospect is in the presence of a good listener, there is more going on than just the exchange of words.

 

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Creating Pacts to Avoid Distraction

Creating Pacts to Avoid Distraction

Notice the two parts to Nir’s formula: a pre-commitment and an external force to keep you accountable to that commitment. For recruiting setting goals and time-blocks in your schedule is not enough. Most people need some kind of external accountability, as well.

Look for Individuals Who Want to be Measured

Look for Individuals Who Want to be Measured

It’s not that people with a growth mindset don’t experience failure—they just see failure as an opportunity to learn new things, to be challenged, and to experience curiosity. This is an important topic to cover during interviews and follow-up conversations with your prospects. If you find someone who likes being measured, you’ve likely found someone who will push through the inherent failures of growing a real estate business and experience long-term success.