Stop Promoting and Start Attracting–Part 2

by | Feb 5, 2026

Hiring managers often ask me:

How frequently should I be contacting my prospects during the follow-up stage of the recruiting process?

Too much can certainly be annoying, but most recruiters err on the side of not enough contact.

According to researchers, increasing frequency taps into what’s called the “mere exposure effect” of attraction.

In simple terms, the more you’re exposed to something or someone, the more attractive it becomes.

Familiarity (covered yesterday) is the shotgun approach–competitive agents first need to be generally familiar with you and your organization.

The mere exposure effect is a targeted approach—it is best applied to a small group of people you’re trying to recruit (often called a warm list).

If an individual sees you and hears from you frequently, an attraction will likely sprout and grow.

Connections can happen in various ways such as email, text, social media interactions, a phone call, or an in-person discussion.

The messages and interactions should be positive, helpful, personal, and timely.

By being proactive and focused on these types of interactions, you’re tipping the terrain, so prospects are moving downhill towards you.

 

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The Attrition Variables

The Attrition Variables

While these attrition constants still have the greatest influence, there are some emerging attrition variables worth noting. People also tend to leave companies when: They feel like they’re not doing as well as others in their peer group outside the company. They feel like they’re not as far along as they should be at a certain point in life.

The Attrition Constants

The Attrition Constants

If you’re not focusing most of your retention effort on these issues, you’ll miss the mark. If you’re not focusing most of your recruiting effort on exploiting these weaknesses among your competitors, you’re missing the best opportunities.

The Persistence Mindset

The Persistence Mindset

A leader equipped with this mindset can have a profound effect on the life and career of each individual they engage. It works because an agent is getting a real-time glimpse of what it would be like to work on your team. But it only becomes believable when it is persistently applied over time.