How the Best Recruiters Get More Referrals

by | Oct 21, 2025

If you’re frequently asking for recruiting referrals from your agents and other network contacts, you may find that some of your referral sources can’t think of anyone on the spot.

Your simple request:

Do you know anyone I should be talking to about joining your team?

You may be met with a blank stare or a brush-off comment.

I can’t think of anyone but if someone comes to mind, I’ll let you know.

It may not be that they don’t want to help you, but many people get a little brain paralysis when they’re asked to pull information like this out of the air.

To initiate some additional thoughts, you may want to take the extra step of showing your referral contact a copy of your recruiting warm list (print it out and have it handy).

I get it—it’s hard to think of agents on the fly. Do you happen to know anyone on this list? These are some of the agents I’m trying to connect with.

Your referral source will rarely know someone on the list, but just seeing some agent names and companies often jogs their memory, and it keeps the conversation going.

Getting referrals is a subtle art that the best hiring managers learn to master.

The relationships and referrals are sitting dormant in most people. It’s your job to bring them to the surface.

 

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The Attrition Variables

The Attrition Variables

While these attrition constants still have the greatest influence, there are some emerging attrition variables worth noting. People also tend to leave companies when: They feel like they’re not doing as well as others in their peer group outside the company. They feel like they’re not as far along as they should be at a certain point in life.

The Attrition Constants

The Attrition Constants

If you’re not focusing most of your retention effort on these issues, you’ll miss the mark. If you’re not focusing most of your recruiting effort on exploiting these weaknesses among your competitors, you’re missing the best opportunities.

The Persistence Mindset

The Persistence Mindset

A leader equipped with this mindset can have a profound effect on the life and career of each individual they engage. It works because an agent is getting a real-time glimpse of what it would be like to work on your team. But it only becomes believable when it is persistently applied over time.