Wanting It Too Much

by | Sep 16, 2025

When you’re in a recruiting dialog with a talented agent, it’s hard not to get too excited about the possibility of this agent joining your team.

While it’s important to let the prospect know you’re interested, when the individual senses you want it more than they do, something odd happens.

The prospect pulls back and puts up some barriers.

Why? It’s just what humans do when they feel they’re being pushed into a decision.

To avoid getting yourself into this situation, view your response along the interest spectrum.

At one end of the spectrum:  You’re a disinterested third-party.

I don’t really care if you come to work here.

At the other end of the spectrum:  I REALLY want you to work here.

I’m focusing a lot of attention on your decision.

The best hiring managers operate in the center of this spectrum.

Yes, I care, but if it is the right decision for you and me, it will happen.

Next time you have an agent crush going, ask yourself:

Where am I along the interest spectrum?

 

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The Attrition Variables

The Attrition Variables

While these attrition constants still have the greatest influence, there are some emerging attrition variables worth noting. People also tend to leave companies when: They feel like they’re not doing as well as others in their peer group outside the company. They feel like they’re not as far along as they should be at a certain point in life.

The Attrition Constants

The Attrition Constants

If you’re not focusing most of your retention effort on these issues, you’ll miss the mark. If you’re not focusing most of your recruiting effort on exploiting these weaknesses among your competitors, you’re missing the best opportunities.

The Persistence Mindset

The Persistence Mindset

A leader equipped with this mindset can have a profound effect on the life and career of each individual they engage. It works because an agent is getting a real-time glimpse of what it would be like to work on your team. But it only becomes believable when it is persistently applied over time.